Why is porn so hard to get out of?
You might be able to quit things like sugar, coffee, cigarettes, and many other things. But pornography remains because it touches every part of your life.
Without proper self-knowledge about what you’re actually craving, you won’t be able to un-tether yourself from this addiction.
Why is it hard to listen to our real wants and needs?
A lack of self-compassion. We hold ourselves to such ridiculously high standards, and there’s often so much guilt involved, that we make ourselves believe that quitting porn MUST be hard, must be difficult.
Ironically, those who can learn to forgive themselves and give themselves compassion will go further with much greater ease.
How do you get past the guilt, the self-hatred and resentment? How do you get to the heart of your real wants and needs?
It begins with sustained contemplation. Sustained contemplation is to think and feel deeply about something until the idea stays in your mind and sinks into your mind and heart.
Most people think contemplation is going to be hard. Sit in silence, become a monk who lives in the mountains, or something like that.
Actually, it’s nothing like that.
More on that in my next post!